War, not libido's the villain
'Nothing is good or bad in this world, our thinking makes it so'
We've known each other from kindergarten,did all 13 years of schooling together and swear that we're best chums. When we parted ways to pursue our own careers, a good 5 years ago, Aj came up with the idea of an e-group. And thus started radclass.After five years,41 members and over 1000 messages, we still havent come to a concensus on what qualifies as an acceptable message. For a group which swears by post liberal ideas, its a sensitive and volatile issue. The latest episode sparked strong reactions and arguments from both sides. The story goes like this. There's this friend of ours studying in one of the top medical college in the country. His mails are candid, open to the core and filled with inscrutible medical jargon that at times all of us find it difficult to connect with his messages. But his last two messages evoked strong reactions from almost everyone from the group. He mailed in raw malayalam about a sudden bout of testosterone drive and further 'physical repurcursions' over few 'hot' foreign exchange students on campus, which was truly yellow paper stuff in language and well...bit uneasy to read!. That was it. Protest mails poured in. One called them 'filthy', another fellow medicine student appealed to him to keep his personal fantasies to himself, a software geek even suggested pre-screening of mails.Well, it was all high drama and our doctor in the making was one who fought to the core. His reply left me thinking. Who decides on what is acceptable and what is filthy? Well, with his permission, I am posting his reply here. The true caveat are the last four lines, truly insightful.
sorry about the pain i caused to the holier-than-me
faction of radclass. i live in a raunchy world, do
raunchy work, which if taken non-professionally, is
really below the belt...so pardon me if i reproduce
some modifications of "ayal kadhayezhudukayanu"...
hey I told u FEMALES DO NOT PROCEED TO THE FOLLOWING
LITERATURE! You shouldve listened!
At one point things stop sounding kinky anymore, its
stuff u deal with everyday! I mean, nobody out there
has ever tried explining things to a couple of parents
who bring their 13 year old daughter who just hit
puberty with back pain and vomiting and she turns out
to be a pregnant teen have you? or tried councellina a
guy who gulped down a bottle of Harpic coz he couldnt
handle the pain his wifes death? Or dealt with a
family who begs at ur feet to put and end to their
miserable fathers life coz they cant bear to stand and
watch him suffer slowwly? Or have any of you come
across a 40 year old married man who comes some exotic
disease he caught because he's been having sex with
his dog for 4 years? welcome to my world!
this is not something which happened in some vague
corner of scandinavia, this is in India, in Tamil
Nadu, in Vellore, in my cubicle! and this happens to
be an extremely orthodox Muslim dominated area... and
its not just here, it's everywhere, in karnataka, in
bihar, in nepal, in west bengal, in orissa, in andhra
pradesh, in bangladesh...i dont see the finer aspects
of life in a design studio, i see a raw world which
somewhere along the line has stopped disgusting me...
its not just sex, its riots, communal violence,
gunshots which blow intestines out, hardships of
life... the so-called "filth" is the lighter side of
any takers for missionary work? in Bihar maybe?
Truly, my friend you do have a strong point there....'the so called filth is the lighter side of life'.